April 2011 | Cordell & Cordell

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Joseph Cordell on remaining in the marital home

“Moving out will never look good, even if you do so with honorable intentions to keep the peace or give her space.”

So says Joseph Cordell, principal partner of Cordell & Cordell, in an article for BookTrib.com. Cordell explained in his column why moving out of the marital home is one of “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce.

“By moving out without a court order and leaving the kids with the mother, your behavior speaks much louder than words,” Cordell wrote. (Read the full divorce article.) “Your behavior is telling the court that you and your wife have agreed that the children are better off in her care than yours. It’s then characterized that the man has other priorities or that he’s not capable of handling the kids.”

500,000 men face divorce each year and most will make irreversible mistakes, including moving out of the marital home.

Every example Cordell writes about in “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce” is from an actual case—and every piece of advice has been proven to work time and time again.

Visit the DadsDivorce.com store to purchase “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce.”

Joseph Cordell’s advice on prenups

The single largest business transaction that most people will go through is their marriage vow, according to Joseph Cordell, principal partner of Cordell & Cordell.

So why do so few people enter into a marriage without a prenuptial agreement?

“They’ve never really gained a lot of momentum in our culture among those financially below the very upper echelon. Usually, first marriages involve young couples who don’t have a lot of assets or children so they feel a prenup is addressing something that is entirely speculative,” Cordell said while appearing on the radio show Dresser After Dark with Michael Ray Dresser. (Listen to the full interview.)

When you get married, you are essentially becoming business partners that encompasses not only all the assets you currently posses (though there are exceptions of course), but also including every single dollar you make going forward, according to Cordell.

“It’s a huge deal, and most people head into marriage without realizing it’s the gravest financial decision they will every make,” Cordell told Dresser.

Cordell appeared on the program to discuss his new book, “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce.” 500,000 men face divorce each year and most will make irreversible mistakes.

“This is an area in which men can least afford to make mistakes because they are in a court system that is set up against them,” Cordell said.

Click the link to listen to the full interview.

10 Mistakes To Avoid in Divorce

Joseph Cordell appeared on Bruce Sallan’s radio show to talk about the 10 divorce mistakes that if guys avoided would substantially change the outcome of their case.

Cordell, principal partner of Cordell & Cordell, addressed two common mistakes: doing a poor job on financial statements and moving out of the marital home.

Cordell told Sallan, who as an author and syndicated columnist writes from “A Dad’s Point of View,” that guys tend to gloss over the financial documents in a divorce case. (Listen to the full interview on divorce mistakes.)

“I know this isn’t the most exciting thing to talk about, but guys have to realize that the majority of the critical issues in divorce do not make for good primetime television, such as presenting salacious evidence of marital misconduct,” Cordell said. “What ultimately matters are the details on those financial statements. The assets, liabilities and statements of income.”

Those numbers written down on a piece of paper are going to determine the amount of maintenance to be paid, if any, the amount of child support paid, and the division of assets. So accuracy and thoroughness on these financial documents are crucial.

Cordell also addressed why men should not move out of the marital home without being ordered by the court.

“Most people will agree that when you hear of a someone moving out of the house during a divorce it’s always the guy,” Cordell said. “Guys are prone to this submission when in many cases they are the ones who have paid the mortgage or will continue to pay the mortgage.”

Cordell said he’s not suggesting men should be forced to spend a year or two in the house while the divorce is pending under very stressful conditions. But if you are going to leave the marital home, at least let a judge make the determination.

By moving out without a court order and leaving the kids with the mother, Cordell points out that such behavior speaks much louder than words.

“His behavior is saying my wife and I have agreed that the children are better off in her care than mine,” Cordell said. “It’s then characterized that the man has other priorities or that he’s not capable of handling the kids.”

Even if you have moved out with honorable intentions to “keep the peace” or “give her room,” Cordell said her side would not spin that in any way that is favorable for you.

To listen to the full interview, please visit Bruce Sallan’s website.

Men’s Divorce Source App Given 4.5 Stars

AppDictions.com rated Cordell & Cordell’s Men’s Divorce Source App 4.5 stars

The Men’s Divorce Source App for Android, iPhone and iPad, available on iTunes for free, was called the first comprehensive divorce resource guide for men by AppDictions, a site that reviews iPhone, iPod Touch, and iPad Apps.

“This App focuses on making the divorce process as easy as possible for men and their children by providing advice and answers on multiple divorce topics, including finances, alimony, child support, custody, visitation, and parenting,” according to the review.

The review mentions the ability to browse through dozens of articles and answered questions written by real lawyers who want to provide you with the most accurate information.

Available for purchase in the App are full PDF versions of divorce advice books “Your Civil War” and “Divorce Full Force,” a combined value of almost $40.

Other features include:

•    Nine categories of articles to browse with in-depth search and bookmarking functionality.
•    Share stories on Facebook or via email.
•    Reference section of all topics relating to divorce and family law.
•    Browse Ask a Lawyer questions.
•    Search divorce attorneys near you with a functioning map.

As mentioned in the review, the app also provides links to additional divorce resources by Cordell & Cordell, including the book “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce” and the website DadsDivorce.com.

Take the advice of the review: “Don’t face your divorce alone – get educated and find support with Men’s Divorce Source!”

Get the Men’s Divorce Source iPad App or the Men’s Divorce Source iPhone App.

Read the full AppDictions review.