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Video: Cordell & Cordell News – August 22, 2014

Cordell & Cordell along with its sponsored sites, DadsDivorce and MensDivorce, present a news video for the week of August 22, 2014.

This week, Cordell & Cordell Principal Partner Joseph Cordell contributed a column on parental alienation to The Huffington Post. DadsDivorce took a look at preparing kids for going back to school after a divorce. MensDivorce launched a new video series called Attorney Bites.

Joe Cordell Discusses Parental Alienation in The Huffington Post

huffington postParental alienation, or the action of one parent to manipulate a child away from the other parent, is a subject more widely recognized today than even just a few years ago.

In a new column for The Huffington Post titled “Is Your Ex Turning Your Child Against You?” Cordell & Cordell Principal Partner and Founder Joe Cordell discussed parental alienation and its impact on many fathers.

In the article, Mr. Cordell mentioned his 25 years of experience in representing men and seeing many situations in which one parent will let personal feelings damage the relationship between a child and the other parent.

“This can be done subtly and unintentionally through occasional belittling comments, to active and malicious ‘brainwashing’ with the intent to replace any love the child may have for the other parent with hate,” wrote Mr. Cordell. “Alienation can be cataclysmic during such an emotional time as divorce.”

Mr. Cordell also pointed out that, in the majority of situations, the primary custodial parent tends to be the person who contributes to parental alienation if it exists. Because many fathers are non-custodial parents, they often become the victim of such alienation.

He made sure to note that those parents who feel that they or their children are suffering from parental alienation should certainly complete every parental obligation that exists and seek the help of a psychologist familiar with the condition.

Read more from Mr. Cordell’s Huffington Post column.

Joe Cordell Contributes New Column to The Huffington Post

huffington postCordell & Cordell Principal Partner and Founder Joe Cordell contributed a new column, “Why Moving Out is the Biggest Mistake in a Divorce,” to The Huffington Post regarding divorce and mistakes made when moving out of the marital home.

In the June 2014 article, Mr. Cordell points out that one of the most damaging errors men often make during the divorce process is when they decide to move out of the home. He cites his book, “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce,” and mentions that this mistake ranks as number one on his list.

“The top reason not to leave the marital home ‘voluntarily’ is that it gives your wife’s attorney the opportunity to label you as abandoning the family,” said Mr. Cordell. “Even if you feel you are being bullied into leaving by your wife, let me be perfectly clear: You have no obligation to leave the home if your name is on the lease or mortgage.”

Mr. Cordell discusses the importance of showing “positive involvement and influence” in family life and going through the divorce process as a man, and especially as a dad in custody decisions.

He also listed some ideas for men facing this difficult decision on whether to move out of the marital home before a divorce or to stay.

“Move to a spare bedroom, avoid any unnecessary interactions with your soon-to-be ex spouse and, most importantly, continue being an active part of your children’s lives,” wrote Mr. Cordell.