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Joe Cordell Discusses Parental Alienation in The Huffington Post

huffington postParental alienation, or the action of one parent to manipulate a child away from the other parent, is a subject more widely recognized today than even just a few years ago.

In a new column for The Huffington Post titled “Is Your Ex Turning Your Child Against You?” Cordell & Cordell Principal Partner and Founder Joe Cordell discussed parental alienation and its impact on many fathers.

In the article, Mr. Cordell mentioned his 25 years of experience in representing men and seeing many situations in which one parent will let personal feelings damage the relationship between a child and the other parent.

“This can be done subtly and unintentionally through occasional belittling comments, to active and malicious ‘brainwashing’ with the intent to replace any love the child may have for the other parent with hate,” wrote Mr. Cordell. “Alienation can be cataclysmic during such an emotional time as divorce.”

Mr. Cordell also pointed out that, in the majority of situations, the primary custodial parent tends to be the person who contributes to parental alienation if it exists. Because many fathers are non-custodial parents, they often become the victim of such alienation.

He made sure to note that those parents who feel that they or their children are suffering from parental alienation should certainly complete every parental obligation that exists and seek the help of a psychologist familiar with the condition.

Read more from Mr. Cordell’s Huffington Post column.

Fathers’ Rights Firm Branches Out

Joseph Cordell, Principal Partner of Cordell & Cordell, spoke with the National Law Journal about his firm’s office expansion and the perception of disadvantages that men face in family court.

Cordell, whose firm solely represents men in divorce litigation, said, “We were always representing more men than women and saw a lot of challenges guys face that women don’t. It is the reverse of other circumstances in our culture.”

He explained that many times men are at a disadvantage in family court because of self-fulfilling prophecies.

“I’ve been told that when guys fight for primary custody they succeed about as often as moms do, but the reality is most guys don’t fight for primary custody because they believe they have no prospect of success,” Cordell said. “Guys come to us, heads hanging low about their expectations, because of what they hear at work or maybe from other lawyers. That’s how you end up with a man who agrees to pay 75% of his income to mom and child, so he ends up working a second job and still cannot participate in his child’s life to the extent he wants. No one wins in that situation.”

Read the article on father’s rights.