Divorce signals the end of your marriage, but your relationship with your ex-spouse never really ends if you have children. [Read more…]
This week, Cordell & Cordell Principal Partner Joseph Cordell talked about the importance of fathers and their parental rights on Love 860 radio, based in the Atlanta area. Mr. Cordell also contributed acolumn about financial advisors and preparing for clients going through divorce to Financial Advisor magazine.
Members of the Orange County community, as well as neighborhoods around the country, are affected by divorce every day, but sometimes guidance and support is hard to find. But the Newport Beach Independent reports that a local church is opening its doors to host a divorce support group.
The Divorce Recovery Workshop (DRW) has been held twice a year since 1981 at St. Andrew’s Presbyterian Church and more than 15,000 people have benefited from the program.
“People are very vulnerable, and can be very shy and scared at first,” participant Gary Harber, who is currently a program facilitator, told the news source. “St. Andrew’s gives us a nice, huge comfortable room; it’s a safe environment to come to. DRW is a positive thing to do with a negative.”
DRW educates and supports people going through divorces through lectures and small group activities.
According to the Superior Court of California in Orange County, sometimes divorces proceed even though one partner does not want the relationship to end. One spouse cannot block the divorce process. Instead, non-participation could lead to default judgment.
Could men one day give a piece of jewelry to propose divorce, just as they do today to propose marriage? According to the Huffington Post, jewelers Spritzer and Furman have created an 18-karat gold ring, costing $3,200 that signifies divorce.
The ring is designed with a diamond dagger, breaking a golden heart in two. WEYI in Michigan reports that the ring could be seen as either a polite or ridiculous way to end a marriage.
Other experts see this fashion statement and other “divorce jewelry” as a way for newly single individuals to celebrate another chapter in their lives. Some women have even redesigned their wedding rings into divorce rings after their marriages failed.
Divorce jewelry and other relationship-related accoutrement is evolving as a trend among adults, according to the New York Times. Jewelry designer Harold Thompson told the news source that his online company sells “self-esteem building” creations including divorce rings. Thompson’s design boasts similarities to traditional wedding bands except with a gap in the center.
Thompson has created his offerings from experience. He has been divorced twice, according to the Times.
When a marriage falls apart, it can be easy to personally fall apart with it. But Sarah Kelsey, an editor for the Huffington Post, explains that people going through a divorce can dwell on the deaths of their relationships or take steps to heal.
One of the first steps to gracefully navigate life after a divorce is to cancel your plans, Kelsey explains. Life rarely works out the way one thinks it will, so people are better off enjoying the moments and not remembering all of the plans they put in place while they were married.
Admitting personal shortcomings can also lead people down the path to post-divorce redemption. No one is perfect, and admitting faults can help one figure out how or why a relationship crumbled so the same mistakes won’t be made again.
However, Kelsey warns that people should not entirely blame themselves for a divorce. It may be beneficial to forgive an ex-spouse, but it is sometimes even better to forgive one’s self.
It is important to remember that divorced adults are allowed to date, and to love again. Ask Men just advises that people don’t rush into anything.