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For so many people, the holiday season brings unbridled joy and happiness. But for some, this can be one of the most difficult, heart-wrenching times of the year.
There are many out there who are facing the uncertainty of the divorce process. Others might be spending their first Christmas away from their children. Those are the people Cordell & Cordell is committed to supporting.
Regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in, may each of you have a joyous holiday season.
Parenting is difficult enough when both individuals are married and present to raise their child. This makes creating a peaceful environment for kids after a divorce even harder, as tension between the former couple can end up hurting the development of the child.
According to the Chicago Tribune, Judy Corcoran, co-author of a book titled “Joint Custody with a Jerk” noted that sustaining a peaceful environment for children is essential, despite how difficult it might be for both parents.
“You actually hate the person’s guts by this time,” Corcoran told the newspaper. “So that’s what we teach, how to communicate with this person.”
Though Judy Corcoran is a divorcee and a single parent, she noted that this “jerk” can be both a female or male, as both sexes can be responsible for creating this negative environment for a child.
Corcoran met the co-author Julia A. Ross at Parenting Horizons, an organization that helps divorced adults reconcile to the point where they can still be effective parents and have a positive impact on their child, according to the organization’s website.
The transition for children of divorced parents during the holidays can be difficult, as many of the traditions that existed when their father and mother were together will like change following the split.
The London Free Press reported that cooperation and advanced planning need to occur in order for the holidays to go smoothly, helping children forget about the problems that may exist between their two parents.
“Fail to plan, plan to fail,” Karen Stewart, a divorce mediator, told the news source. “If parents do not plan then kids are often left torn between where to go, who to spend time with – juggling the two families and extended families is more than any kids should have to handle.”
New traditions can be created to replace older ones, helping to generate new memories for children and limiting the amount that they will miss the days when the family celebrated the holidays together, according to the Press.
The New York Times reported that children who are young can adapt to any significant changes if they are explained to them in the right way. An open dialogue needs to exist between parents and their kids.