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Divorce rates drop as economy slows

During the recession, the divorce rate dropped to its lowest rate in 30 years, according to CBS News.

In 2008, there were nearly 20,000 fewer divorces than the year before. The peak divorce rate nationwide was 5.3 per 1,000 population in both 1979 and 1981, according to the National Center for Health Statistics. Currently, the divorce rate sits at 3.4 per 1,000.

The reason behind this drop may be that people are postponing their divorces until their finances improve or because home values have dipped. Other couples have found that weathering the financial storm has made their relationships stronger.

The National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia has found that many couples have also reported that the financial hardships during this recent recession have deepened the commitment in their marriages. The project found that 20 percent of married Americans reported experiencing two to three of issues such as worrying about meeting expenses, making mortgage payments or having a home foreclosed on, and unemployment or pay reduction during the recession. Only 49 percent of married Americans in the study escaped all three.

Stay-at-home dads could suffer during divorce

According to the U.S. Census, there were 159,000 stay-at-home dads in 2010, a number three times larger than 10 years ago. This number could potentially balloon due to the 2 million fathers working as the primary caregivers at home due to the recession and dads who work less hours to save time for child care.

As this statistic continues to grow, stay-at-home fathers are increasingly more vulnerable to financial risk during a divorce, and unemployed men are at greater risk of being left by their wives, according to Time magazine.

According to the Huffington Post, New York recently addressed this financial unfairness during divorce lawsuits. The state now requires monied spouses to pay for the the non-monied spouse’s attorney and experts during the litigation. However, alimony is another financial risk all over the country for parents who gave up their careers to stay at home with the children. States with no-fault divorces have usually deemed that alimony is no longer compatible.

One father interviewed by the publication said that he stayed home to care for his child with health issues while his wife worked, but after six years as a stay-at-home dad, his wife left without explanation, leaving him with no alimony and only one year of limited child support.

Facebook increases divorce rate among adults

That “poke” may not be as innocent as you think.

Recent studies suggest that the prominence of social networking websites may be leading to a higher rate of divorce among Americans aged 50 or over. Experts believe that adults approaching retirement age may have been unprepared for a technological revolution that allows them to reconnect with long-lost friends or lovers, according to Bloomberg.

Divorce lawyers have confirmed the trend. In a study by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 81 percent of surveyed divorce attorneys said the number of cases they have involving social networking sites has increased over the last five years. Facebook was the main culprit, with 66 percent of lawyers saying the popular website was the main source of online divorce evidence among their clients.

Nancy Kalish, a professor of psychology at California State University, Sacramento, told Bloomberg that social network websites may lead to an “accidental affair,” a term she said refers to individuals who don’t initially set out to have a physical or emotional relationship outside of their marriage. In addition, Kalish stressed that some of these people would not have strayed if the Internet had not made it possible to easily connect with others.

“They still bear responsibility for the affairs, of course; no one made them write, call or meet in a hotel room,” Kalish said. “But these are probably people who would not have cheated years ago, even with a lost love.”

About 3.4 out of every 1,000 U.S. marriages end in divorce, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Nevada had the highest divorce rate in the nation in 2009, followed by Arkansas, West Virginia and Wyoming.

Real Reasons For Divorce – KTRS

Listen to Cordell & Cordell co-founder Joseph Cordell discuss the real reasons for divorce as well as studies and myths about why people leave their marriage.

Is it true that most marriages end because of financial reasons, or is there something more behind their motives? Cordell discusses recent studies that indicate that women leave marriages over disagreements about finances and sex, while men leave marriages over disagreements about money.

Listen to the interview regarding motives for divorce.