With or without a global pandemic, a parent or ex-spouse forced to pay spousal or child support outside of their means is not living financially sustainably. With such a high financial burden often placed on the husband and father, they are left looking for solutions over time.
Modification of spousal and child support does not mean that you no longer love your children or want to financially assist your ex-spouse in their recovery.
It means that your ex-spouse’s circumstances may have changed and now they are receiving financial assistance elsewhere. It means that the burden may be so substantial that you cannot be an effective parent living in poverty. It means that your children may have grown up and no longer require the financial support that they once did.
Pursuing modification is a step in financial responsibility in a post-divorce life. It should not be a stigmatized event that devalues the financial obligations toward an ex-spouse or children, but rather an event with goals and a realistic financial outlook in mind.[Read more…]
Parental alienation, or the action of one parent to manipulate a child away from the other parent, is a subject more widely recognized today than even just a few years ago.
In a new column for The Huffington Post titled “Is Your Ex Turning Your Child Against You?” Cordell & Cordell Principal Partner and Founder Joe Cordell discussed parental alienation and its impact on many fathers.
In the article, Mr. Cordell mentioned his 25 years of experience in representing men and seeing many situations in which one parent will let personal feelings damage the relationship between a child and the other parent.
“This can be done subtly and unintentionally through occasional belittling comments, to active and malicious ‘brainwashing’ with the intent to replace any love the child may have for the other parent with hate,” wrote Mr. Cordell. “Alienation can be cataclysmic during such an emotional time as divorce.”
Mr. Cordell also pointed out that, in the majority of situations, the primary custodial parent tends to be the person who contributes to parental alienation if it exists. Because many fathers are non-custodial parents, they often become the victim of such alienation.
He made sure to note that those parents who feel that they or their children are suffering from parental alienation should certainly complete every parental obligation that exists and seek the help of a psychologist familiar with the condition.
Read more from Mr. Cordell’s Huffington Post column.