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Joe Cordell Discusses Parental Alienation in The Huffington Post

huffington postParental alienation, or the action of one parent to manipulate a child away from the other parent, is a subject more widely recognized today than even just a few years ago.

In a new column for The Huffington Post titled “Is Your Ex Turning Your Child Against You?” Cordell & Cordell Principal Partner and Founder Joe Cordell discussed parental alienation and its impact on many fathers.

In the article, Mr. Cordell mentioned his 25 years of experience in representing men and seeing many situations in which one parent will let personal feelings damage the relationship between a child and the other parent.

“This can be done subtly and unintentionally through occasional belittling comments, to active and malicious ‘brainwashing’ with the intent to replace any love the child may have for the other parent with hate,” wrote Mr. Cordell. “Alienation can be cataclysmic during such an emotional time as divorce.”

Mr. Cordell also pointed out that, in the majority of situations, the primary custodial parent tends to be the person who contributes to parental alienation if it exists. Because many fathers are non-custodial parents, they often become the victim of such alienation.

He made sure to note that those parents who feel that they or their children are suffering from parental alienation should certainly complete every parental obligation that exists and seek the help of a psychologist familiar with the condition.

Read more from Mr. Cordell’s Huffington Post column.

Cordell & Cordell Attorney Named New York Rising Star by Super Lawyers

super-lawyers-2014Cordell & Cordell attorney Chad Jerome was named to the 2014 New York Rising Stars list for family law attorneys by Super Lawyers, a Thomson Reuters business.

Mr. Jerome (Albany, NY) was selected to be on this list for the second time.

Each year, no more than 2.5 percent of the lawyers in the state are selected by the research team at Super Lawyers to receive this honor.

Super Lawyechad jerome attorneyrs is a rating service of outstanding lawyers from more than 70 practice areas who have attained a high degree of peer recognition and professional achievement.

The annual selections are made using a patented multiphase process that includes a statewide survey of lawyers, an independent research evaluation of candidates and peer reviews by practice area.

Lawyers are asked to nominate the best attorneys who are 40 years old or under, or who have been practicing for 10 years or less, and who they have personally observed in action.

Men’s Divorce Reports on Gender Stereotypes Facing Men

gender stereotypes facing men with custodyGender stereotypes face men in the family law courts on a regular basis.

Recently, Mens’ Divorce took a look at this issue and reported on some of the numbers regarding the number of married women receiving primary custody of children as well as sizable child support packages.

“It should not come as a shock that men face antiquated gender stereotypes when going through a divorce, and that fighting these can lead to lengthy, expensive legal battles that still result in unfair settlements once a judgment is finalized,” reported Men’s Divorce

With stereotypes still affecting the way society and the courts often view men and dads, there is an ongoing notion that “men [lack] the capability to perform basic household or parenting tasks.”

Men’s Divorce reported on a recent Huffington Post article, “Retire the Bumbling Husband: He Isn’t Helping,” which discussed the negative affects such characters and stereotypes can have on society’s perceptions, beliefs on parenting and even custody decisions.

As the article’s author Jaime Zucker points out,  “Advertisements for housekeeping products can still be targeted to attract female consumers, but the justification that these products should be selected by the woman because her male partner is just too stupid to do so needs to be retired. It’s time advertisers pay attention – equality is empowering.”

Video: Cordell & Cordell News – July 25, 2014

Cordell & Cordell along with its sponsored sites, DadsDivorce and MensDivorce, present a news video for the week of July 25, 2014.

In this week’s news, Cordell & Cordell’s principal partner Joseph Cordell was installed as the 51st president of the American Association for Attorney-Certified Public Accountants. DadsDivorce reponded to an Ask a Lawyer question regarding a wife who had abandoned the home and her children. MensDivorce took a look at the importance of proper courtroom etiquette.

Check out the weekly news video below.

 

Joe Cordell Contributes New Column to The Huffington Post

huffington postCordell & Cordell Principal Partner and Founder Joe Cordell contributed a new column, “Why Moving Out is the Biggest Mistake in a Divorce,” to The Huffington Post regarding divorce and mistakes made when moving out of the marital home.

In the June 2014 article, Mr. Cordell points out that one of the most damaging errors men often make during the divorce process is when they decide to move out of the home. He cites his book, “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce,” and mentions that this mistake ranks as number one on his list.

“The top reason not to leave the marital home ‘voluntarily’ is that it gives your wife’s attorney the opportunity to label you as abandoning the family,” said Mr. Cordell. “Even if you feel you are being bullied into leaving by your wife, let me be perfectly clear: You have no obligation to leave the home if your name is on the lease or mortgage.”

Mr. Cordell discusses the importance of showing “positive involvement and influence” in family life and going through the divorce process as a man, and especially as a dad in custody decisions.

He also listed some ideas for men facing this difficult decision on whether to move out of the marital home before a divorce or to stay.

“Move to a spare bedroom, avoid any unnecessary interactions with your soon-to-be ex spouse and, most importantly, continue being an active part of your children’s lives,” wrote Mr. Cordell.