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Debating whether to get remarried after divorce

After going through a divorce, many adults eventually find love again. However, some may be leery of signing up for another marriage if the emotional and financial wounds from the break-up of the first marriage are still fresh. With a little work and by drawing from lessons learned in the past, a second marriage can be successful.

According to The Wall Street Journal, first and second marriages that end in divorce last around the same amount of time, states the news source, which is very telling information.

“The fact that the divorce rate isn’t higher for remarriages shows that a lot of people are trying very hard and with great success to make their second marriages work,” Andrew Cherlin, professor of sociology and public policy at Johns Hopkins University, explained to the publication.

One of the most common ways divorced men and women start new marriages is to gain understanding from how their first unions ended, like what they can’t tolerate and what they need in a partner.

According to Better Homes and Gardens, adults who decide to remarry should remember to put all their cards on the table when it comes to finances, such as existing debts. Having an open conversation about these financial problems can save trouble in the long run.

Divorces are more common in families that receive government assistance

A new study shows that there may be a connection between divorce rates and government assistance such as food stamps and welfare, the Huffington Post reports.

Dr. David Schramm of the University of Missouri conducted a study that found that couples in the same income bracket who receive government assistance are more likely to experience lower rates of marital satisfaction and are more likely to divorce, have negative interactions with their spouses or feel trapped in their relationships.

For the study, Schramm surveyed nearly 300 couples, 64 of whom received government assistance. Of those, the couples earning less than $20,000 and receiving some form of government financial help experienced the lowest rates of martial bliss.

“Economic hardship, the feeling of strain and tension associated with money issues, tends to be a driver for other stressors,” Schramm explained in a university press release.

Schramm said he was surprised to find, however, that couples that made $20,000 or less but did not receive help from the government had a much higher satisfaction level in their marriages, according to the news source.

Low-conflict couples still susceptible to divorce

Thanks to the seemingly endless stream of celebrity news and political gossip, high-profile divorces are often discussed. These marital splits are often filled with betrayal, adultery and various other scandals.

However, divorce experts throughout the country are finding that these Hollywood-style, high-drama divorces are not the norm. In fact, author Pamela Haag estimates that nearly 60 percent of divorces in the U.S. are break-ups of couples considered “low conflict,” according to the Chicago Tribune. In these cases, the pattern is a slow wearing-down of the relationship and the intimacy until couples are more like cohabitating strangers than lovers.

“The ambient noise of life takes over,” Edward M. Hallowell, director of the Massachusetts-based Hallowell Centers for Cognitive and Emotional Health, told the publication. “There’s no big conflict; couples have just lost touch with each other, lost the fun, lost the moments of sustained attention because we live surrounded by this buzz.”

Some of the culprits of this growing disconnection between spouses include technology, negativity and unequal power, states the news source.

According to Psych Central, couples who report fighting excessively will rarely see change in this dynamic, but couples who report little to moderate conflict levels have a better chance of changing their situations. Spouses in low-conflict relationships commonly have personalities classified as validator or avoider.

Nevada boasts highest divorce rate in nation

While Nevada is known the world over for its quickie marriages, the state is now also known for another dubious honor. According to CNBC, Nevada has the highest divorce rate in the U.S. – 6.6 divorces per 1,000 people.

One of the hubs of divorce in the state is Reno, once known as the Divorce Capital of the World, the news source states. The lifestyle in the city, an atmosphere ripe with partying, gambling, legal brothels and other temptations, tends to lend itself to high divorce rates.

Arkansas has the second highest divorce rate in the nation, with 5.6 divorces per 1,000 people. According to the news provider, economic difficulties and financial stress experienced by many in the state have attributed to this rate. In addition, residents often get married at younger ages, which could play a role in a higher divorce rate, marriage counselor Dr. Gary Oliver told CNBC.

Other states listed as having the top 10 divorce rates, in descending order, are Wyoming, Idaho, West Virginia, Kentucky, Oklahoma, Alaska, Florida and Maine.

According to the Heritage Foundation, divorce can lead to financial hardship. Nearly 50 percent of parents with children see their family’s income drop by as much as 50 percent following divorce.

Divorce rates jump in many rural areas

While divorce is still less common in rural areas than the national average, a sharp jump in divorces has been seen in these regions, the New York Times reports.

The publication analyzed U.S. Census data and found that rural Americans are now just as likely to get divorced as urban residents, a signal that families in rural regions are going through a transformation as women have gained more autonomy and geographic distinctions have virtually vanished.

“In the bottom ranks, men have lost ground and women have gained,” explained a law professor from the University of Missouri-Kansas City to the news source. “A blue-collar guy has less to offer today than he did in 1979.”

According to the Wichita Eagle, the closing gap between divorce rates in rural and city areas could be due to the fact that divorce rates in urban regions are declining. The publication reported that Americans who have a college degree are less likely to get divorced than those with a high school diploma, and while one in six rural residents have a college degree, one in three urban residents do.