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New York divorce leads to dispute over dog ownership

A battle over a golden-doodle dog has increased the difficulty of the divorce process for a prominent couple in New York City, according to the New York Daily News.

James O’Hanlon and Susan McCarthy, who own the trendy Greenwich Village restaurant Agave, will reignite their battle in court. This new development will make the process more painful since they have already been warring in Nassau County Court for more than two years, the news source reported.

According to The Associated Press, the battle has expanded to include other members of the family, as the daughter of James O’Hanlon has now claimed that she is the rightful owner of the pooch. Slaney O’Hanlon alleges that she was given the pooch during the legal battle and should be granted custody, against the wishes of McCarthy.

Slaney’s aunt and James O’Hanlon’s sister, Margaret Healy, alleged that McCarthy had left the girl a nasty voicemail and went as far as following her in a car.

“I couldn’t believe she followed me in the car,” Healy told the Daily News. “I almost fainted.”

Some couples heading to divorce turn relationships around

When spouses are unhappy, sometimes it is assumed that a divorce is imminent. However, some couples have been able to turn their relationships around, even when they are just steps away from ending their marriages, USA Today reports.

For Rick and Tina DeRosia of Hartford, New York, a divorce was seemingly unavoidable. Years of relationship trouble had finally culminated in divorce proceedings. When they began working out child custody arrangements for their 13-year-old and 11-year-old, and when they considered the financial effect of such a decision, the couple decided to back track and work on their marriage instead.

“I felt moving on was what I needed to do, but … should we try to do more? I thought about the effect it would have on my children,” Tina DeRosia told the publication.

Frank and Julie LaBoda of Wisconsin were about to get a divorce after infidelity ruined their trust. However, a last-ditch weekend away saved their marriage. This specialized getaway helped many couples share stories and change their attitudes in the hopes of reconciling. After a few years, the LaBodas were back on track.

According to the National Center for Health Statistics, the marriage rate is 6.8 per 1,000 total population, while the divorce rate is 3.4 per 1,000.

Second-generation of divorcing parents vow to spare children harm

Divorces have affected many families, and in some cases, more than one generation. However, some children of divorce struggling through their own marital problems as adults have vowed to make the experience different for their kids.

Brian Sibley and Rachael Brownell both watched their parents split around the age of 10. After experiencing the emotional effects of divorce first-hand, the couple vowed to spare their children from that pain when they agreed to end their own marriage after six years, The Wall Street Journal reports.

Sibley and Brownell are parents to a 4 year old and 7-year-old twins. When divorce was the only option, the pair explained to their children that they would still be a family, but that sometimes, families live apart.

The ex-spouses’ plan could have a positive effect on their kids in the long run. According to the publication, society commonly held that children of divorce were destined for poor grades, behavior problems and relationship issues later down the line. However, Christy Buchanan, a professor of psychology at Wake Forest University, told the news source that with careful planning and a sensitive approach, divorces don’t have to ruin a child’s life.

According to the University of Missouri, parents can best talk to their children about divorce by scheduling time to meet as a family, staying calm, planning what will be said ahead of time and setting aside time to meet again in the future.