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Cordell & Cordell divorce books now available for download

10StupidYCWDFFCordell & Cordell has always been a firm dedicated to the education of clients and men in general in all matters related to divorce and finance. Because of this, we’ve decided to make our three divorce resource books available as affordable eBooks.

Our downloads contain both PDF and Kindle versions for use on your Kindle, iPad, home computer, or any other reading device which supports PDF or MOBI formats.

The Dangers Of Using Facebook During Divorce

Divorce lawyers nationwide are heeding the advice of Cordell & Cordell attorneys and warning clients to stay off Facebook and other social media when going through a divorce, according to the St. Charles Suburban Journal.

The paper interviewed Cordell & Cordell co-founder Joseph Cordell about one of “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce“: revealing too much on the Internet.

“Our average person could not afford to hire a private detective to run around willy-nilly in the hope that over several days he might stumble upon something,” Cordell told the paper. “Now you have a relatively low-paid clerk who is a crack user of the Internet. They can go in and find things that even the lawyers can’t find.”

Cordell said one of the first things Cordell & Cordell lawyers want to know from their clients is how they and their soon-to-be-ex use the Internet.

Cordell gave examples of the dangers of posting damaging information online:

A wife posts online that since her ex, named Sam, has been ordered to continue to pay the mortgage and utilities she’s opened the windows and run the air conditioning during the summer.

“She wrote that she was paying for it with her ‘Sam’s card,'” he said.

Another woman who swears in court she doesn’t drink posts a photo of herself with a child in one arm and a bottle of Jose Cuervo in the other.

Judges are not pleased when this information is brought to light, and family law judges have far-reaching latitude in the information they review, Cordell & Cordell attorney Kristin Zurek said.

Cordell also warned about those who try to trick their spouses by setting up fake profiles to glean insider information.

“If you think that in family court the end justifies the means, you’re wrong,” Cordell says. “Judges, quite frankly, are interested in the means.”

Read more: No need for a private eye; divorce combatants post damaging info themselves

Joseph Cordell on remaining in the marital home

“Moving out will never look good, even if you do so with honorable intentions to keep the peace or give her space.”

So says Joseph Cordell, principal partner of Cordell & Cordell, in an article for Cordell explained in his column why moving out of the marital home is one of “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce.

“By moving out without a court order and leaving the kids with the mother, your behavior speaks much louder than words,” Cordell wrote. (Read the full divorce article.) “Your behavior is telling the court that you and your wife have agreed that the children are better off in her care than yours. It’s then characterized that the man has other priorities or that he’s not capable of handling the kids.”

500,000 men face divorce each year and most will make irreversible mistakes, including moving out of the marital home.

Every example Cordell writes about in “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce” is from an actual case—and every piece of advice has been proven to work time and time again.

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The Ongoing Battle for Father’s Rights

Cordell & Cordell principal partner Joseph Cordell discussed the progress fathers have made in family law courtrooms across the country but acknowledged the need for more equality during his appearance on the McCarthy and Friends Show on 94.1 KPVR in St. Louis.

“There has been progress in the field of men’s rights and I applaud that,” Cordell said. “But there still is an institutional bias in my opinion. We continue to focus on trying to get the courts to be completely gender blind.”

The divorce industry makes presumptions about fathers and men that have elevated the interest unfortunately of women above the interest of men, according to Cordell.

“Quite frankly, it’s really become a civil rights issue as much as anything,” he said. “When you think of the progress we’ve made in civil rights, men’s rights as it pertains to the family has been neglected and it’s time a light is cast on it. There needs to be the same sort of concern of fair play that is given other individuals.”

Twenty years ago while practicing general law, Cordell realized 85% to 90% of his clients were coming to the Cordell & Cordell firm for domestic relations help.

“During the course of that experience I couldn’t help but notice the challenges consistently facing the guys side of the table when it comes to custody, maintenance issues, and accusations of domestic violence,” Cordell said. “I found in waging those fights that I enjoyed it more. So we proclaimed ourselves as a firm that devoted itself to representing men in domestic relations matters.”

Cordell also discussed his new book “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce” and gave advice on what men should consider when facing the possibility of divorce.

Listen to Part 1 of the interview for more information on men’s rights.

Part 2 examined the double standards and challenges men face in divorce.

In Part 3, Cordell outlined some of the most common mistakes men make in divorce.

To purchase “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce,” click here.

Cordell & Cordell is a national domestic litigation firm focusing on helping men with divorce issues.

10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make On Sale

Attorney Joe Cordell

Each year 500,000 American men will face divorce—and in the process, most of them will make at least one really stupid mistake.

At first these missteps might seem inconsequential. They might be as trivial or well-intentioned as “moving out while this gets sorted out,” or thinking of “temporary” orders as being truly temporary.

But however well-intentioned or insignificant they might seem at the time, these blunders can lose a man his house, his income, or even his kids.

The fact is that most men know next to nothing about what goes into deciding a divorce in a court of law. And it ends up costing them.

THE 10 STUPIDEST MISTAKES MEN MAKE WHEN FACING DIVORCE: And How to Avoid Them (Three Rivers Press Paperback Original, December 7, 2010) is an invaluable and authoritative new guide for men who find themselves trying to navigate a divorce.

Author Joseph Cordell is the founder of the nation’s leading law firm for men facing divorce, Cordell & Cordell, and the creator of When it comes to divorces, Cordell and his firm have seen it all, and they have pulled together the best and most consistently useful advice from all of the cases they have handled.

Every example featured in THE 10 STUPIDEST MISTAKES MEN MAKE WHEN FACING DIVORCE is from an actual case—and every piece of advice has been proven to work time and time again.

With this handbook, you will not only learn about the most common mistakes made by men during a divorce, but also how to avoid them, and how to deal with these errors once they have already been made. Some of the typical mistakes addressed in bookinclude:

No. 1: Moving Out. By moving out before divorce proceedings begin, the man is jeopardizing any chance of joint custody or keeping the house.

No. 3: Waiting for Your Wife to File. Not filing first can negatively affect your future in terms of money, how much time you spend with your kids, and your overall state of being.

No. 5: Neglecting the Children. Saying that you want custody of the children, and then not being there when it is important can make you look disingenuous and will only hurt you.

No. 6: Doing a Sloppy Job on Financial Records. Not having an accurate account of your family’s finances can lead tothe court taking your soon-to-be-ex’s side in financial matters.

No. 8: Revealing Too Much on the Internet. No matter how seemingly innocent, everything you do on the Internet can not only be traced, it can be misconstrued and used against you.

Every step of the divorce process, from the first filing to the final settlement, can be influenced to help produce a more favorable outcome. Men just need to know what mistakes to avoid, what tips to follow, and what really matters in preparing for a divorce.

Drawing from Joseph Cordell’s years of professional experience, THE 10 STUPIDEST MISTAKES MEN MAKE WHEN FACING DIVORCE is an invaluable resource for any man who is ready to face his divorce head on and mistake free.



Joseph Cordell, Esq., is founder, with his wife, Yvonne, of Cordell & Cordell, P.C., based in St. Louis, one of the leading law firms in the United States in representing men in family law cases. He received his B.S. in accountancy at Oklahoma State and his juris doctorate degree from the University of Texas. He is also the creator of



By Joseph Cordell, Esq.

Three Rivers Press • On-sale Date: December 7, 2010 • 978-0-307-58980-4 • $15.00

Also available as an ebook