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The Dangers Of Using Facebook During Divorce

Divorce lawyers nationwide are heeding the advice of Cordell & Cordell attorneys and warning clients to stay off Facebook and other social media when going through a divorce, according to the St. Charles Suburban Journal.

The paper interviewed Cordell & Cordell co-founder Joseph Cordell about one of “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce“: revealing too much on the Internet.

“Our average person could not afford to hire a private detective to run around willy-nilly in the hope that over several days he might stumble upon something,” Cordell told the paper. “Now you have a relatively low-paid clerk who is a crack user of the Internet. They can go in and find things that even the lawyers can’t find.”

Cordell said one of the first things Cordell & Cordell lawyers want to know from their clients is how they and their soon-to-be-ex use the Internet.

Cordell gave examples of the dangers of posting damaging information online:

A wife posts online that since her ex, named Sam, has been ordered to continue to pay the mortgage and utilities she’s opened the windows and run the air conditioning during the summer.

“She wrote that she was paying for it with her ‘Sam’s card,'” he said.

Another woman who swears in court she doesn’t drink posts a photo of herself with a child in one arm and a bottle of Jose Cuervo in the other.

Judges are not pleased when this information is brought to light, and family law judges have far-reaching latitude in the information they review, Cordell & Cordell attorney Kristin Zurek said.

Cordell also warned about those who try to trick their spouses by setting up fake profiles to glean insider information.

“If you think that in family court the end justifies the means, you’re wrong,” Cordell says. “Judges, quite frankly, are interested in the means.”

Read more: No need for a private eye; divorce combatants post damaging info themselves

Joseph Cordell on remaining in the marital home

“Moving out will never look good, even if you do so with honorable intentions to keep the peace or give her space.”

So says Joseph Cordell, principal partner of Cordell & Cordell, in an article for BookTrib.com. Cordell explained in his column why moving out of the marital home is one of “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce.

“By moving out without a court order and leaving the kids with the mother, your behavior speaks much louder than words,” Cordell wrote. (Read the full divorce article.) “Your behavior is telling the court that you and your wife have agreed that the children are better off in her care than yours. It’s then characterized that the man has other priorities or that he’s not capable of handling the kids.”

500,000 men face divorce each year and most will make irreversible mistakes, including moving out of the marital home.

Every example Cordell writes about in “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce” is from an actual case—and every piece of advice has been proven to work time and time again.

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Joseph Cordell’s advice on prenups

The single largest business transaction that most people will go through is their marriage vow, according to Joseph Cordell, principal partner of Cordell & Cordell.

So why do so few people enter into a marriage without a prenuptial agreement?

“They’ve never really gained a lot of momentum in our culture among those financially below the very upper echelon. Usually, first marriages involve young couples who don’t have a lot of assets or children so they feel a prenup is addressing something that is entirely speculative,” Cordell said while appearing on the radio show Dresser After Dark with Michael Ray Dresser. (Listen to the full interview.)

When you get married, you are essentially becoming business partners that encompasses not only all the assets you currently posses (though there are exceptions of course), but also including every single dollar you make going forward, according to Cordell.

“It’s a huge deal, and most people head into marriage without realizing it’s the gravest financial decision they will every make,” Cordell told Dresser.

Cordell appeared on the program to discuss his new book, “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce.” 500,000 men face divorce each year and most will make irreversible mistakes.

“This is an area in which men can least afford to make mistakes because they are in a court system that is set up against them,” Cordell said.

Click the link to listen to the full interview.

10 Mistakes To Avoid in Divorce

Joseph Cordell appeared on Bruce Sallan’s radio show to talk about the 10 divorce mistakes that if guys avoided would substantially change the outcome of their case.

Cordell, principal partner of Cordell & Cordell, addressed two common mistakes: doing a poor job on financial statements and moving out of the marital home.

Cordell told Sallan, who as an author and syndicated columnist writes from “A Dad’s Point of View,” that guys tend to gloss over the financial documents in a divorce case. (Listen to the full interview on divorce mistakes.)

“I know this isn’t the most exciting thing to talk about, but guys have to realize that the majority of the critical issues in divorce do not make for good primetime television, such as presenting salacious evidence of marital misconduct,” Cordell said. “What ultimately matters are the details on those financial statements. The assets, liabilities and statements of income.”

Those numbers written down on a piece of paper are going to determine the amount of maintenance to be paid, if any, the amount of child support paid, and the division of assets. So accuracy and thoroughness on these financial documents are crucial.

Cordell also addressed why men should not move out of the marital home without being ordered by the court.

“Most people will agree that when you hear of a someone moving out of the house during a divorce it’s always the guy,” Cordell said. “Guys are prone to this submission when in many cases they are the ones who have paid the mortgage or will continue to pay the mortgage.”

Cordell said he’s not suggesting men should be forced to spend a year or two in the house while the divorce is pending under very stressful conditions. But if you are going to leave the marital home, at least let a judge make the determination.

By moving out without a court order and leaving the kids with the mother, Cordell points out that such behavior speaks much louder than words.

“His behavior is saying my wife and I have agreed that the children are better off in her care than mine,” Cordell said. “It’s then characterized that the man has other priorities or that he’s not capable of handling the kids.”

Even if you have moved out with honorable intentions to “keep the peace” or “give her room,” Cordell said her side would not spin that in any way that is favorable for you.

To listen to the full interview, please visit Bruce Sallan’s website.

Cordell Discusses Common Divorce Mistakes

Interested in learning about the worst mistakes men make in divorce, the Chicago Tribune interviewed Cordell & Cordell principal partner Joseph Cordell about his newest book “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce.”

Cordell’s advice is based on his own personal experience going through a divorce and his professional experience representing men in divorce for more than 20 years.

Fighting for fathers’ rights is what motivated Cordell to become a divorce lawyer for men.

“I was galvanized by guys who were my clients and trying to get primary custody of their children. Even though they were the better parent, they still couldn’t get across the finish line in the courts,” Cordell said. “The more frustrated I became, the more incentivized I was to help them.”

Read the article for a brief rundown of the 10 mistakes that Cordell has compiled.

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