August 2010 | Cordell & Cordell

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Spying On Your Ex In Divorce

In his latest AskMen.com article, Cordell & Cordell Principal Partner Joseph Cordell does the cost / benefit analysis of spying on your soon-to-be-ex.  What should you do, for instance, if you’re pretty sure she’s cheating?

When In A Divorce, Child Support Or Marital Maintenance Case Is It Okay To Spy?

Can you record phone calls? Are you allowed to get into her email account? How about printing out Facebook updates, profile information or photos? With so many ways to snoop from bank statements, to GPS records, to hidden cameras, it’s no wonder we have the urge to satisfy our suspicious mind’s yearning to find out and begin building a divorce case.

But, cautions the CEO of the world’s largest divorce firm serving men, you might be doing yourself and your case more harm than good. Read the divorce article to find out more about the wide range of surveillance laws that vary from state to state, the potential risks and rewards associated with snooping, and the ways to protect yourself from others who might want to know more about your private life.

Divorce And Apologies: The Divorce Files

In Joseph Cordell‘s latest AskMen.com installment, Cordell & Cordell’s Principal Partner, discusses why even if love means never having to say your sorry, divorce absolutely forbids it.

In the latest edition of his column, The Divorce Files, Cordell illustrates why words often intended to mend a relationship or, at very least, pacify a spouse whose mind is set on divorce can often have a detrimental effect on a man’s divorce outcome.

Cordell shows how dealing from a position concession is not only an unwise relationship strategy (it rarely works when in one party’s mind a decision has already been made), it is also an unwise divorce tactic where admissions of guilt will be exploited by opposing counsel and substantiated and possibly magnified by technology such as email, voice mail and social media.

To learn more about divorce strategy, read the article here.

 

False Claims of Abuse in Custody Battles

Across the nation, some men believe they are being victimized by court systems that allow women to make unquestioned, false claims of abuse against their current or ex spouses. In response to these claims, fathers’ rights groups and law firms have begun to fight back.

One such law firm is the St. Louis-based firm Cordell & Cordell. Attorney Dorothy Ripka said there is “a stereotype of prejudice (against men), that has existed for a long, long time.  But stereotypes just aren’t appropriate in determining what’s in the best interest of the child.”

To gain the upper hand in divorce and custody battles, some women have begun to seek protective orders with false claims of abuse.

Ripka called protective orders “the most abused process in our court system. People use it to get a leg up in the court system all the time. It becomes a he said/she said. You have to prove something didn’t happen.”

The Art of the Prenuptial Agreement

There’s more to the modern prenup than you might think. By using the recent Tiger Woods prenup as an example, Joseph Cordell, Principal Partner of Cordell & Cordell, explains that prenuptial agreements are about more than pre-marital property and money.

Your good name, credibility and reputation might very well be at stake after your divorce and your prenuptial agreement should take these factors into account. Cordell explains how, in Tiger’s case, the clauses that restrict his ex-wife, Elin Nordegren, from publishing books, interviews or any other commentary on the marriage, its problems or its dissolution, were not only important to Tiger’s reputation; they were probably essential to his livelihood and so he paid a premium to secure them.

Read the entire AskMen.com article on the Tiger Woods prenup.

 

Dangers When Behind on Child Support

In a recent article in The Belleville News-Democrat focusing on a man whose outstanding child support debt was brought to the state’s attention, Cordell & Cordell attorney Richard Coffee explained the danger of defaulting on mandated child support payments and possible remedies to deal with the high-interest penalties that are often affixed to such debts.

According to the story, it was the processing of a A $250 stimulus check that brought to light the unpaid child-support debt of Carnell Williams, a Washington Park father of 6.

Because his unpaid child support and accrued penalties at the rate of 9 percent, Williams has accumulated a debt of $163,582.

Mr. Coffee explains the ways that parents who have accumulated these large penalties can seek some relief through negotiations and how the ability to make lump sum payments might be used to leverage such negotiations.