Letting out feelings can help ease pain of divorce

Divorces can whip up many powerful feelings, especially those of rejection, sadness, anger and loss. However, keeping those emotions inside can do more harm than good, so Monica Medina, in a recent column for the Huffington Post, suggests that people going through a divorce talk to whomever will listen.

During her divorce, Medina said that she talked to friends and family regularly. But one source of talk therapy that she found particularly helpful was talking to strangers.

“It’s easy and gratifying and makes for cheap therapy,” Medina wrote. Some of her favorite impromptu therapists included cab drivers, ushers, cashiers, locksmiths, plumbers and even a psychic at a local state fair.

The benefit of strangers is that they are often too polite to yell, which wasn’t the same for Medina’s family, she found. Strangers are “nice and nod their heads as you talk, taking in everything you have to say,” she explained. “They recognize that when you finally take a breath they can politely excuse themselves.”

According to the Harvard Medical School, talk therapy, also known as psychotherapy, can help people struggling to address emotions and troubling symptoms. Additionally, experiences and feelings that you’re not consciously aware of can come out in these discussions, but it is advisable to see a therapist for the best results.