Good divorces are difficult but possible

A divorce can be painful on many levels, both emotionally and financially. But a “good” divorce is possible by carefully navigating the emotional mine field, according to a family lawyer in a recent column for the Huffington Post.

The first step to a clean divorce is for spouses to respect one another and treat each other with dignity. While this may be one of the most difficult experiences in the life of a relationship, both partners must remember that they once were in love.

The lawyer also suggests that both parties truly determine that the marriage cannot be saved. Reserving divorce as a last resort after counseling and other attempts at reconciliation will help the process run more efficiently.

When children are involved, they must be the most important piece considered in the divorce, the attorney explained. The best interests of the children should be the top priority.

“This is difficult, and too often people in the heat of emotion will do things to put children in the middle,” he writes.

Courteney Cox and David Arquette had one of the most amicable divorces in Hollywood after being married from 1999 to 2010. The pair remained friendly to raise their children, even taking vacations together. The ex-couple also starred in Scream 4 after the divorce.